Grief and Loss
Grief and loss are excruciating. The loss of a loved one either from the death or the ending of a relationship is like losing a limb. It's part of life and something that everyone experiences at some point, but that [...]
Recognizing and Treating Major Depression
Depression isn’t just having a bad day or feeling down over something that happened at work. The difference between feeling sad and major depression is how it’s defined and how it manifests. Major depression is a state of intense sadness [...]
5 Text-Based Ways to Show Your Partner Love
Gary Chapman describes the idea of love languages which basically says that there are five different ways couples express and experience love, says EveWoman. The first one is through words of affirmation then through quality time followed by giving gifts, [...]
Labeling Emotions: Why It’s a Learning Curve
Labeling emotions, what's that? One of the hardest things I teach as a counselor is how to just feel. It seems it's written in some magic rule book somewhere that feelings aren't okay. Furthermore, the words used to describe feelings are [...]
Physical Touch vs Sex: Love Language Matters
Our culture, more or less, predisposes us to think of ourselves as sexual creatures. From the movies we imbibe to the books we devour, our unending fascination with and interest in all things sexual has been well documented throughout ages [...]
Being a Single Parent and Falling In Love Again
There are 13.7 million single parents in the US who are raising about 22 million children, based on a report released by the Census Bureau. That amounts to about 26 percent of children under 21 in America today, The Spruce [...]
Assigning Words to Emotions: Why It’s a Learning Curve
I’ve got this amazing ability (no, really!), to know how my clients are feeling the moment I greet them in the waiting room. All of my clients know this is true! I can feel the energy they’ve brought to the [...]
5 Words We Need to Stop Using in Relationships
There are words we all use that seem innocuous. However, some of them are nefarious whether we realize it or not. Love is strong but very fragile at the same time, so handling feelings with care is always necessary. Here [...]
Identifying Your Own Love Language
“Love languages” is a specific term pioneered by Dr. Gary Chapman in his groundbreaking book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate which provides a structured approach to understanding how love is expressed and received [...]
Rediscovering Your Spouse: Winter Activities to Reconnect
At I Choose Change, we encourage change that lasts a lifetime. That’s why every month, we’ll take a closer look at the issues that affect you and your family. In January, we’ll focus on resolutions and starting over, then we’ll [...]