A Much-Needed Tune-Up
Spend 6 hours working one-on-one in one full day getting to the root of your marital issues. Based on your Gottman relationship assessment, attachment assessment, individual interviews, and current struggles, the counselor will provide specific tools and guides which help facilitate intimate conversations and exercises. Jennifer’s Intimate Conversations methodology utilizes Gottman’s Sound Marital House and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Included in this session are the Gottman Relationship Checkup and a recommended book. Additionally, you’ll have access to my Private Client Resources page which has exercises to help your marriage at every phase of getting back on track.
Who is a 6-hour intensive best for? For those couples who need a tune-up, check-in, or refresh, a 6-hour intensive is best. Those couples who are not in crisis (such as an affair or substance abuse) will do well with a 6-hour intensive. This is also good for those seeking pre-marital counseling.
Learn New Tools
This intensive is completed in one full day with a 45-minute lunch break or two days (4 hours each day). Not only will you get to the root of the core issues, but also you’ll receive new tools to help you have better communication and resolve your conflict. In this appointment, you’ll receive everything in the 6-Hour Couple Intensive, plus you’ll continue to discuss your specific conflict style and be coached through some difficult conversations as you begin using your new tools.
Who is an 8-hour intensive best for? Those couples who are not currently in a crisis (unless the crisis is currently managed with another counselor). The 8-hour couples intensive is best for those couples who want to understand your individual and couple communication style, conflict style, and how your childhood impacted how you relate to your partner. Plus, you’ll do a bit of role-playing to begin using newly learned skills.
An Immersive Weekend
An immersive weekend (two days, back-to-back) in which you gain a much deeper understanding of the impact of your childhood upbringing and the inner workings of this relationship. You’ll get everything from the 6 or 8 hours intensive, plus an additional 4 hours to practice new skills. The counselor will coach you through difficult conversations. You will learn the TEA Communication Style, the CALM Connecting method of getting out of conflict, and how to recognize triggers the moment they happen.
Getting to the root of core issues takes time. Once you’re there, you’ll learn and understand your and your partner’s “Baseline Battle “(that is, what you and what your partner each struggle with the most while in conflict). Every couple has conflict. It’s how you get out of the conflict that makes the difference between a healthy relationship and one in which you feel lost, lonely, heartbroken, and alone.
Who is a 12-hour intensive best for? Those couples may be experiencing a crisis, such as an affair. However, they recognize that the relationship dynamic is the core issue, not one individual partner. (I.E., Affairs are a result of an already broken relationship. This intensive helps address that issue.) Couples who do a 12-hour intensive are not only committed to the longevity of their relationship, they realize that while they’ve heard that “relationships take work,” they haven’t really understood what this means. This weekend, you’ll get assessments and tools, then you’ll get ample practice time for your new skills. Finally, you’ll be given follow-up homework to continue work together.
Many couples are referred by their therapists to complete an intensive and then continue their work with their therapist. That works well! Simply take what you’ve learned, share it with your current therapist, and pick up where we left off. This works well for many couples.