There’s a version of you that shows up under pressure.
You didn’t choose her.

One day to understand where she came from — and to stop being run by her.

There’s a version of you that shows up under pressure. You didn’t choose her.

One day to understand where she came from — and to stop being run by her.

THE PROBLEM

You read a text three times because the tone felt off. You let friendships fizzle out, but you’re not sure why. When your partner asks you what’s wrong, you say you’re fine, but you’re not.

You have a pattern of relating that you learned long before you had words for it, and one that’s been running quietly ever since. In your marriage. At work. With your mother. In traffic. With your kids. The way you talk to yourself when no one’s listening.

You have done real work on this. And you still cannot get in front of it.

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THE GUIDE

I’ve been doing this work for over twenty years, and most of my referrals come from other therapists who send me the cases that aren’t moving.

What makes the difference is a clinical assessment method that very few practicing therapists are trained in. I get to the root of your pattern in a single sitting, and it gives me the kind of picture that usually takes months of weekly sessions to assemble. You can’t study for it, and you won’t see it coming. That’s precisely why it works.

I hold a PhD in Family Studies, with my research focused on attachment, and I’m Level 3 Gottman trained. I own I Choose Change, a group practice in Allen, Texas, where I’ve trained every clinician on my team in this same assessment method. I’m also the creator of The Eight Practices, the Soil and Soul framework you’ll take home with you, and the author of the forthcoming book Roots of Belonging.

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THE GUIDE

I’ve been doing this work for over twenty years, and most of my referrals come from other therapists who send me the cases that aren’t moving.

What makes the difference is a clinical assessment method that very few practicing therapists are trained in. I get to the root of your pattern in a single sitting, and it gives me the kind of picture that usually takes months of weekly sessions to assemble. You can’t study for it, and you won’t see it coming. That’s precisely why it works.

I hold a PhD in Family Studies, with my research focused on attachment, and I’m Level 3 Gottman trained. I own I Choose Change, a group practice in Allen, Texas, where I’ve trained every clinician on my team in this same assessment method. I’m also the creator of The Eight Practices, the Soil and Soul framework you’ll take home with you, and the author of the forthcoming book Roots of Belonging.

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THE PLAN

Have a Consult. Let’s talk about whether this is the right path for you, and what to expect during and after. I’ll send you some pre-work right after our call to get you started right away.
Do your Intensive. Five hours in one day, just the two of us. You’ll leave with a workbook full of resources to get you started.
Schedule Regular Check-Ins. I recommend checking in once per month to ask questions, get more guidance, and be held accountable for the goals you’re working on.

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THE PLAN

Have a Consult. Let’s talk about whether this is the right path for you, and what to expect during and after. I’ll send you some pre-work right after our call to get you started right away.
Do your Intensive. Five hours in one day, just the two of us. You’ll leave with a workbook full of resources to get you started.
Schedule Regular Check-Ins. I recommend checking in once per month to ask questions, get more guidance, and be held accountable for the goals you’re working on.

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WHAT CHANGES

By the end of the day, you will have taken a deep, personal look at your life, from the day you were born to right now.

1. Discover your Internal Working Model. This is the lens you look through in every situation, with every person. Why do you do that thing? Why do you feel this way? What needs to stay, and what needs to change?

2. Strengthen Mentalization. This is your ability to understand what’s happening inside your own mind and inside someone else’s. You’ll start to notice the difference between what a person actually did and the story you told yourself about why they did it. That gap is where so much hurt happens in relationships, and it’s where so much healing is possible.

3. Drop Self-Blame. Most people come in believing there’s something wrong with them. What you’ll discover is that you’ve been responding to life exactly the way you were taught to respond. That understanding gives you something you may not have felt in a long time: choice, and a real sense of control over your mind, body, and soul.

4. Create New Patterns. Maybe not immediately, but over time, you’ll notice your reactions changing. The way you respond to others. The way you care for yourself. The way you tune into your emotions.

5. Trust Yourself. You’ll leave with more confidence and self-assurance. You can do this work, and I’m here to help every step of the way.

WHAT CHANGES

By the end of the day, you will have taken a deep, personal look at your life, from the day you were born to right now.

1. Discover your Internal Working Model. This is the lens you look through in every situation, with every person. Why do you do that thing? Why do you feel this way? What needs to stay, and what needs to change?

2. Strengthen Mentalization. This is your ability to understand what’s happening inside your own mind and inside someone else’s. You’ll start to notice the difference between what a person actually did and the story you told yourself about why they did it. That gap is where so much hurt happens in relationships, and it’s where so much healing is possible.

3. Drop Self-Blame. Most people come in believing there’s something wrong with them. What you’ll discover is that you’ve been responding to life exactly the way you were taught to respond. That understanding gives you something you may not have felt in a long time: choice, and a real sense of control over your mind, body, and soul.

4. Create New Patterns. Maybe not immediately, but over time, you’ll notice your reactions changing. The way you respond to others. The way you care for yourself. The way you tune into your emotions.

5. Trust Yourself. You’ll leave with more confidence and self-assurance. You can do this work, and I’m here to help every step of the way.

WHAT YOU TAKE WITH YOU

You’ll leave with a workbook full of tools, including three frameworks I’ve built to help you keep doing this work long after our day together:

CLEAR — my framework for working with your own pattern once you can see it. This is the core of what I teach, and you’ll leave knowing how to use it.

CALM — a practice for the moment you’re already triggered and the old response is reaching for the wheel. We practice it together, in the room.

The Eight Practices — the Soil and Soul daily structure that turns one day of insight into a durable change. Insight fades. Practice holds.

30 Days of Texts to keep you grounded and feeling more securely connected to yourself by introducing new habits into your daily life.

Your workbook and a written plan — your record of the day, built around your life, not a handout about attachment styles.

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WHAT YOU TAKE WITH YOU

You’ll leave with a workbook full of tools, including three frameworks I’ve built to help you keep doing this work long after our day together:

CLEAR — my framework for working with your own pattern once you can see it. This is the core of what I teach, and you’ll leave knowing how to use it.

CALM — a practice for the moment you’re already triggered and the old response is reaching for the wheel. We practice it together, in the room.

The Eight Practices — the Soil and Soul daily structure that turns one day of insight into a durable change. Insight fades. Practice holds.

Your workbook and a written plan — your record of the day, built around your life, not a handout about attachment styles.

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Who is this for:

You’ve noticed you become someone under pressure that you don’t recognize or particularly like
You can explain yourself well and still can’t interrupt yourself in the moment
The same dynamic keeps appearing across unrelated parts of your life — work, family, friendships, love
You’re high-functioning, self-directed, and would rather have the tools than a standing appointment
You want depth without a two-year commitment

This is not for:

Couples in active conflict — that’s the [Couples Intensive]
Anyone in acute crisis who needs consistent weekly clinical support
Anyone looking for reassurance rather than an honest look at their own pattern

Not sure which you are? That’s a good reason to book a consultation. I’ll tell you straight.

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Individual Intensive FAQs

Why choose an individual intensive?
Because you’re tired of understanding yourself and still doing the same thing. In five focused hours, you can get to the root of a pattern that would take months of weekly sessions to uncover, and you leave with tools you can actually use instead of a vague sense that you should keep thinking about it.

How is this different from individual therapy?
Weekly therapy is built to support you over time. We follow whatever surfaced since last Tuesday, and the good stuff often shows up at minute forty, right as we’re out of time. An intensive has a different job. We go all the way to the bottom of your history in one sitting, and I build you a specific picture of how your pattern works. Most of my clients have real therapy behind them. It usually makes this go faster.

What happens in the individual intensive?
You’ll do a small amount of preparation before we meet. The day itself starts with a deep dive into your history, all the way back to the beginning, using an assessment method most therapists don’t have. From there we look at what it revealed, and I teach you the frameworks I’ve built for working with what you find. We finish by building a plan that fits your actual life.

Who does the intensives?
I do. I’ve also trained clinicians at I Choose Change in this same assessment method, and intensives with them are available at a lower rate.

Will insurance cover this?
No. Intensives are private pay. The investment is $1,500 for five hours.

What happens after the intensive?
You go live your life, and you practice. Insight fades if you don’t use it, so you’ll leave with a workbook, three frameworks, and a written plan telling you where to begin. Monthly check-ins are available if you want someone watching the work with you. Thirty minutes, by video, where we look at how the practices are landing and adjust what isn’t working.

What resources will I have afterward?
You’ll leave with a workbook containing everything we covered, including all three frameworks. CLEAR, for working with your pattern once you can see it. CALM, for the moments you’re already in it. And The Eight Practices, the daily structure that keeps this from fading. Your written plan tells you exactly where to start.

When is an intensive not a good fit?
This isn’t the right setting for someone in active crisis, or for anyone who needs a higher level of care, including active addiction, an active eating disorder, or active suicidal thoughts. Those deserve more support than one day can give, and I’d want you to have it.

If you’re already in recovery and you want to go deeper into your attachment history to understand the root of it, that’s different. That’s work I’m glad to do with you.

What if I need more support after the intensive?
Then we’ll find it for you. Some people are ready to run with what they have. Others want ongoing weekly work, and if that’s you, I have a team of clinicians I trust and I’ll connect you with the right one. I’d rather you get the right support than the support that happens to be mine.

Individual Intensive FAQs