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7 Ways to Know You’re an Awesome Mom

Being a Mom is tough work, we  Moms know that. There are times we don't live up to the expectations we have for ourselves, and as a therapist, I find myself needing to let Moms know just how awesome they are. So, I put together a list of ways to know that you are an awesome mom! The most important thing about being an awesome mom is knowing who you are and what you are becoming. You are so much more than Just-a-Mom. Your life is way more than the identifying work, "Mom." You juggle so many things in your life, from being an Kid-Uber driver to rockin' it at the office. Pantsuit by day, messy bun by night, and what you have in between is [Read more...]

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Suffering

Recently, a fellow cancer survivor friend was asked by a publication to write a piece about an experience that she had with her journey through cancer. She agreed, always happy to spread more awareness of the challenges of this devastating, harrowing feat that many go through. She poured her heart out, speaking authentically about both her challenges and her triumphs, but she quickly received feedback from the editors. They wanted a more "positive" piece, and wondered if she could simply edit out some of the struggle?  Simple? No. Absolutely not.  My Cancer Journey As a cancer survivor myself, I have frequently been put in a position where others have expected me to minimize, or even ignore, my lived experiences in order for them to feel [Read more...]

Parent Coaching

Parent coaching may seem like an odd concept, and that being a parent seems straightforward in theory. You teach your children good moral values and encourage positive behavior to excel, but life can be messy and parenting is never easy. Whether you have children who are well-behaved and fulfill every expectation or ones who are troubled and get into sticky situations, the bottom line is that parenting is never simple. One key point to remember is that you’re not alone. If you feel like you’re struggling with parenting, there a few easy things to consider. What is Parent Coaching? We all need guidance and mentoring with our parenting. At our office, you've got a team of experts who are not only parents themselves, but who [Read more...]

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Labeling Emotions: Why It’s a Learning Curve

Labeling emotions, what's that? One of the hardest things I teach as a counselor is how to just feel. It seems it's written in some magic rule book somewhere that feelings aren't okay. Furthermore, the words used to describe feelings are usually very narrow. For example, how many times do you ask someone how they're doing and they repeat, “Fine,” “all right,” “okay,” or “great?"? Often, this is the first question I ask when I greet a client, and this is the response I get. Then, when we get all comfy in my office, I'll say, "How are you really feeling?" And the truth comes out. A lot of people find it difficult to put a name to what they feel, says Psychology Today. It’s a [Read more...]

Being a Single Parent and Falling In Love Again

There are 13.7 million single parents in the US who are raising about 22 million children, based on a report released by the Census Bureau. That amounts to about 26 percent of children under 21 in America today, The Spruce says. Given the complications of trying to start a relationship when a child is involved, it’s not altogether surprising that the average single parent is wary of falling in love again. The hurdle of time One of the reasons why single parents find it hard to find romantic partners is the lack of time. In the UK, about 70 percent of single parents do not get any opportunities to meet anyone new in their lives. About 80 percent, on the other hand, do not have [Read more...]

Teaching Your Kids the Meaning of Kindness

Research from Parents says kids are hardwired to be considerate and kind. They want to help. That’s their natural inclination. If that’s the case, though, why do a lot of kids seem spoiled and entitled? It might have something to do with the way parents are raising their kids. If you’re finding yourself facing the same problem, here are steps to help you instill kindness into your children: Be a Good Role Model Don’t try to teach your children all about kindness when your actions and behavior are the furthest thing from being kind or considerate. It’s important to guide your kids right and that means being a good role model. If you can’t do that, and they can’t look up to you because your [Read more...]

Getting Your Health on Track After the Holidays

It’s that time of the year for mistletoes, Christmas trees and brightly-wrapped gifts. And then you have the never-ending feasts—the treats and sweets, the meat, the wine—it’s no wonder people love the holidays. It’s so easy to derail your diet, though, with the booze and the slews of desserts. But once the holidays are over—gone are the loaded buffets and heaping plates—then you’re back to minding your weight and going for healthful portions. Or are you? If you’re having a tough time getting your health back on track after living off the holiday leftovers in your fridge for days, here are helpful tips for you: Track Your Habits Identify whatever bad dietary habits you picked up during the holidays. For instance, maybe you picked up [Read more...]

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Small Things You Can Do to Improve the World Today

At I Choose Change, we encourage change that lasts a lifetime. That’s why every month, we’ll take a closer look at the issues that affect you and your family. Earlier this month, we focused on resolutions and starting over. For the rest of January, we'll delve into doing the right thing and justice. I Choose Change serves all of Allen, Plano, McKinney, Wylie, Lucas, Sachse and Fairview, and we offer online and email counseling across the globe. Contact us here for more information. It's easy to look at the world and see the bad news. It's easy to think that's all there is and feel alienated, despondent, and even depressed. "What can I do against all that?" you cry. What can one person do in [Read more...]

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How to Admit You’re Wrong Without Shame

At I Choose Change, we encourage change that lasts a lifetime. That’s why every month, we’ll take a closer look at the issues that affect you and your family. Earlier this month, we focused on resolutions and starting over. For the rest of January, we'll delve into doing the right thing and justice. I Choose Change serves all of Allen, Plano, McKinney, Wylie, Lucas, Sachse and Fairview, and we offer online and email counseling across the globe. Contact us here for more information. Greg McKeown in his book Existentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, said: “There should be no shame in admitting to a mistake; after all, we really are only admitting that we are now wiser than we once were.” So then, why do [Read more...]

Jitters vs Quitters: How to Distinguish Between Red Flags and Cold Feet Before the Wedding

Jitters vs Quitters There’s no doubt about the fact that getting married and planning a wedding can be a very stressful ordeal. Regardless of the size or complexity, it’s basically a huge party that requires complex coordination and decision-making. Being stressed is to be expected, but a more serious question you need to address is whether you’re having a case of stress-induced cold feet or if it’s time to really question your life choice before making a mistake. Here are a few things to consider as you address this feeling before your nuptials. Check in with Yourself Huffington Post offers a series a series of questions to ask yourself to determine whether you’re having common jitters or serious Jitters vs Quitters second thoughts, but the [Read more...]