Almost 19 years ago, I stood in the aisles of Barnes & Noble, holding a book that would change my life.

I was pregnant with my twins, and while I was excited, I was also terrified. I wasn’t sure I would be a good mother. My world felt so full already—my work as a counselor consumed my days, and deep down, I worried: Would I be enough for them?

That day, I picked up Becoming Attached by Robert Karen. That was while I was holding Pregnancy Sucks by Joanne Kimes (because it does, at least for me, and I was looking for anything that could serve as validation to that fact.)

As I read the first few pages of Karen’s book, something inside me clicked. I could see myself in the words on the page. I went home and devoured the book, and what I learned about attachment rocked me to my core.

I realized I had an anxious attachment style. That nagging feeling of never being good enough wasn’t just about motherhood—it was woven into my internal working model, the blueprint I had carried for years…

From that moment on, I was on a mission.

I didn’t just want to understand attachment—I wanted to heal mine. I wanted to reshape the patterns running the show in my life. And as I did, my life as a counselor was also transformed.

My eyes were opened, and honestly, I felt a bit duped by my Master’s program because this was not what I was being taught.

For the last 18 years, attachment has been at the heart of everything I do. Whether I’m sitting with a client in my counseling practice, writing my book The Roots of Belonging, or developing The Attachment Blueprint, it all comes back to one thing:

Helping people understand why they feel the way they feel—and more importantly, how to break free from the old patterns that keep them stuck.

If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing… if you’ve ever questioned your worth or struggled to connect in your relationships… I want you to know:

It’s not because you’re broken.

It’s because you were never taught how to feel safe, how to trust yourself, or how to build secure connections. But the good news? That can change.