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Gottman Relationship Checkup

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Silent treatment? No intimacy? Loads of conflict?
On the brink of divorce or already separated?

If you’d like to get a pulse on your marriage – an assessment which measures the state of your marriage – take an assessment online with a special link setup just for you and your partner in each of your private email boxes. Gottman Relationship Checkups are based on the Sound Relationship House created by Dr. John Gottman.

The assessment includes:

  1. Gottman Relationship Checkup, taken online in your home (we’ll send you a special access link);
  2. Two assessment report sessions (one for each partner); and
  3. Complimentary book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Each appraisal takes approximately one hour for each partner. Once completed, results are emailed to I Choose Change directly, who will assess your results. At your scheduled appointment, each partner will individually discuss their personal results. As a couple, you may decide if you’d like to continue couples therapy after your individual appointments.

Cost: $365

How: Email our office, and let our office manager Melissa know you’d like the Gottman Relationship Checkup. She will send you links to your private, in-home assessment (each couple answers on their own, answers are kept private), and will schedule your follow-up report sessions.

What will we find out?

  • Love Maps – how you know each other’s inner worlds
  • Fondness and Admiration – how each of you admire and respect each other
  • Turning Toward versus Turning Away – whether each of you turn toward your partner, even after small bids for connection, throughout your day
  • Managing Conflict – how you and your partner solve and manage conflict
  • Shared Meaning and Rituals – the areas of your life in which the two of you share in connection through symbols and daily rituals

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