The Huffington Post is always so timely. If you don't read this online news source, I encourage it. Just yesterday this great article was posted. It shows an interview between Mr. Rogers (whom we all love, right?) and the Wicked Witch of the East. Mr. Rogers was way before his time on many issues. In his interview with the Wicked Witch, he proclaims two things: 1) That boys and girls like to dress up as witches for Halloween (and for play, undoubtedly), and 2) That the witch is a frustrated person because she's never gotten what she's wanted out of life. As the author asks, "Being misunderstood, not getting what we desperately want, searching for happiness... none of that sounds that unfamiliar, does it?" In my upcoming book, I [Read more...]
Our life script is so automatic, that to change, we need to stop and just be the audience. In our minds, we create our own narrative, which is to say, we create the stories that create our life. This may seem strange, but think about it a moment. Clinical Neurologist Oliver Sacks wrote that his patients were stuck in their own world – where the mind didn’t appear to be working the way most of our minds work, and he says each of creates a story of our life – a “narrative” of which becomes our identity. Another psychoanalyst, Thomas Szasz says, “the self is not something one finds; it is something one creates.” Louis Cozolino says in “The Neuroscience of Psychotherapy” that our nonconscious decision-making [Read more...]
From friends, family, spouse, co-workers, church members, and others, I want to know who around this client knows what's going on with them, and will support them no matter what. Usually, I'm met with a "deer-in-headlights" look. Rarely do clients want to take their "therapy issue" to their support system. Spouses may know an angry side of the problem, but that's not REALLY knowing.