Home/Aimee E. Benfield, M.A., M.B.A., LMFT-Associate
Serving Individuals, Couples and Families
Jennifer Slingerland Ryan
As a wife and mom to two boys (one with autism), I know there is both joy and difficulty in raising a family and having a strong marriage. I have had 17 years in a successful corporate career, when I started applying my organizational improvement skills to my son’s treatment for autism and other families in need. My true passion was born. Since then I have become a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate with training in Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) and Level 1 Gottman Therapy.
I love working with individuals, couples and families to help find the skills, hope and strength to improve their lives.
I believe you are the expert of your life. I believe that you are trying your best. I also believe that sometimes life does not turn out as expected and we can experience challenges we do not know how to overcome. … This is where I can help! I can help provide the process of how to overcome those challenges. I can help provide a path for moving forward in your life.
The impact of early family relationships on your own family and couple behaviors.
The important interplay between thoughts, emotions and actions.
Develop a deeper sense of self and others, to gain better understanding of why those around you behave the way they do.
How to manage through your most challenging relationships, including spouse, friends, immediate family, extended family, and co-workers.
Parenting survival tips.
How to implement special dietary plans when needed.
Our relationships are where we have the most difficulty because this is were we are the most vulnerable. While we strive for connection and acceptance in our relationships, sometimes we feel disconnected and distrusting when we’ve been hurt. I have completed my Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) externship as well as Gottman Level 1 training. Relationships are out most valuable asset, and I have the expertise to help you manage through the difficult times.
Speaking & Workshops
Key Parental Survival Skills
Making Home Life Easier: Strategies for Improving Children’s Functional Routines & Building Life Skills
The Autism Parent Experience
Creating Parent Action Plans for Special Needs
Implementing Special Diets (including Gluten Free)
3 Strategies for Improving Functional Routines and Building Skills in the Classroom
Parenting a special needs child (functional routines, life skills and sensory enrichment therapy)
Small/family-owned business challenges
Books to help you change
Amir Levine and Rachel Heller’s “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love” – Explains how our attachment style with our parents have similar patterns in our adult relationships and provides tools to improve them.
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish’s “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” – A great book on parenting that helps with communication, setting limits, and resolving conflicts.
Sue Johnson’s “Hold Me Tight” – This book examines the reason we have enraged conversations, and why we ultimately withdraw from the ones we love most – our spouse / life partner.
John Gottman’s “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” – This is a wealth of information, taking from over 20 years of research in what makes marriages succeed or fail.
Or, take a look at all of Aimee’s book recommendations in the I Choose Change Bookstore: Click here.
M.A. Counseling Psychology, University of Notre Dame
M.B.A., Southern Methodist University
B.A. Psychology, University of Texas at Austin
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate (LMFT-Associate) under the supervision of Dr. Charette Dersch, LMFT-S (Lic #: 4924)