We have likely all experienced a time when we’ve noticed something “off” about someone we care for. It can often be unclear as to what our role is when we make this observation, but when our gut gets moving, I think it's important to take action! It could be something simply, like your friend is having a bad day. Or, it could be that this person is genuingly in trouble and thinking of something like suicide. Do you say something? Do you leave them alone to handle what they need to? Depending on your relationship with the person, you may say something immediately or wait until later. The fact of the matter is, we don’t know until we ask how we may be of help
From friends, family, spouse, co-workers, church members, and others, I want to know who around this client knows what's going on with them, and will support them no matter what. Usually, I'm met with a "deer-in-headlights" look. Rarely do clients want to take their "therapy issue" to their support system. Spouses may know an angry side of the problem, but that's not REALLY knowing.