Jennifer Slingerland Ryan, M.Ed., LPC-S
I am a mom, wife, and relationship expert. I work with couples, families and individuals who are interested in reconciling their past, facing their present, and building a richer future. My personal and professional desire is also my mission statement: bring peace to families who need balance.
In reality, we spend most of our time *in* relationships – with friends, children, life partners, and coworkers, for example – and most issues arise out of a relationship dynamic. Many symptoms arise out of relationships or because of the relationship dynamics such as depression, anxiety, ADD, anger and fear. I have spent over 10 years in private practice working with individuals, couples, and parents who are faced with the difficulty of their symptoms and their relationships.
My counseling technique is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and what I like to call “connection therapy” which is rooted in Attachment Theory. I believe that early relationships create a blueprint for ALL other relationships throughout the lifespan, and our job is to change early processing and belief systems that keep you feeling stuck. My clients will learn core principles of the change process, including:
- How early family relationships create a subconscious pattern of behavior in all other relationships throughout the lifespan (intimate, friends, co-workers, etc.)
- How thoughts, emotions, and actions are connected
- How early relationships create subconscious belief systems that drive everything we feel and do
- The role personality, intuition, and mindfulness play in the change process
- How homework and journal exercises between sessions make change happen more quickly
- How meditation, self-talk, role-playing, role rehearsal affect the change process
In my work as a relationship counselor (pre-marital, marriage, life partners), I closely follow the same principles as outlined in attachment theory and cognitive behavioral theory, just as within individual therapy. I believe healthy individuals make healthy intimate partners.
I am a Gottman Level 2 Counselor. I will use the work of Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson most in my relationship work (books are listed below for more reference).
Just a few of my recommended reading list is as follows:
Robert Karen’s “Becoming Attached” - A great book about how we attach to parents as young babies and children, and what happens when we don’t. The childhood attachment process is essential in order to have a healthy adulthood.
David Burn’s “Feeling Good Together” - A great book for couples who are having a difficult time talking to one another because words are disrespectful and angry on an almost constant basis. This is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) perspective for couples.
Sue Johnson’s “Hold Me Tight” - This book examines the reason we have enraged conversations, and why we ultimately withdraw from the ones we love most – our spouse / life partner.
John Gottman’s “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” – This is a wealth of information, taking from over 20 years of research in what makes marriages succeed or fail.
I’m a partner to my husband of over 17 years, a mom to 8-year old twin daughters and a 3-year old daughter – my most important job, by far! The balance between life roles (wife, mom, therapist, etc.) creates an unwavering desire to help others who are in need of more harmony in their home.
Life experience combined with a Bachelor of Science in Human Development and Family Studies from Texas Tech University and a Master of Education in Counseling from the University of North Texas (a program ranked #1 in Texas and #15 in the United States according to US News and World Report) has prepared me for my work with many issues and concerns:
- Bipolar disorder
- Anxiety and Phobias
- Relationship and Marital Concerns
- Parenting Concerns
- Grief and Loss Issues
- Stress Management
- Disorganization, General Unhappiness and Feelings of Low Self-Worth
- Career and Business Changes
- Anger Management
Most of my clients are very normal individuals who simply need a “tune up.” I don’t like labeling because I think it boxes us in and gives us an excuse to behave in ways that don’t serve us positively. Therefore, most of my relationships are in a life coaching capacity, as I believe they are very similar in nature.
Please also check out the Supportive Change and Change Retainer programs to see how to setup Video Counseling, Chat Sessions and Email Sessions.
Also, take a look at my book, “A User’s Guide for Fifty Shades of Grey.” This is my take on the popularity of this very controversial book!
Love the couch. Love yourself.©
Contact our office manager directly at firstname.lastname@example.org to either schedule or get on a waiting list with me. For all other counselors at I Choose Change, you may schedule online immediately.
I look forward to meeting you!