Jennifer Slingerland Ryan, M.Ed., LPC-S

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Jennifer Slingerland Ryan knows a thing or two about kids and families. First, she knows they are joyous, exhilarating, loving and so darn fun. Second, she knows they suck your life dry and make you weep like a baby.

By day she’s a psychotherapist; by night she’s a mom and wife. She claims to love therapizing couples, educating parents, reading dystopian fiction and sleeping in her free time (read: she never sleeps), and she’s written a highly inappropriate book that no teen should ever read but all of her couples should.

Jennifer has spent over 10 years in private practice working with individuals, couples, and parents who are faced with kid-drama, mamma-drama, and family-drama, and she claims that although some stories make a grown woman cry, she loves it.

We spend most of our time in relationships – with friends, children, life partners, and coworkers – and you may not realize it, but many issues arise out of those pesky, er, lovely people we call family. You have symptoms of depression, anxiety, ADD, anger and fear you say? Yep, those come from relationships, too. Jennifer will show you how. 

Jennifer does this little thing called Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and she loves, loves Attachment Theory. (That may not make sense now, but it will when you schedule an appointment with her.) Relationships create a blueprint for all other relationships throughout life, and our job is to change those people in our life…no wait that’s not right…our job is to change ourselves, early processing and belief systems that keep you feeling stuck.

Clients will learn core principles of the change process, including:

  • How early family relationships create a subconscious pattern of behavior in all other relationships throughout the lifespan (intimate, friends, co-workers, etc.)
  • How thoughts, emotions, and actions are connected
  • How early relationships create subconscious belief systems that drive every thing we feel and do
  • The role personality, intuition, and mindfulness play in the change process
  • How homework and journal exercises between sessions make change happen more quickly
  • How meditation, self-talk, role-playing, role rehearsal affect the change process
Gottman 7pp logoJennifer helps couples, too. She is a Gottman Level 2 Counselor as well as a Gottman 7 Principles Program Educator, which means she can train couples within groups to be more emotionally cohesive and better communicators (but you probably don’t need better communication in your marriage). In addition to John Gottman’s work, Jennifer practically worships Dr. Sue Johnson and her work (books are listed below for more reference).Just a few of Jennifer’s recommendations are:Robert Karen’s “Becoming Attached” - A great book about how we attach to parents as young babies and children, and what happens when we don’t. The childhood attachment process is essential in order to have a healthy adulthood.David Burn’s “Feeling Good Together” - A great book for couples who are having a difficult time talking to one another because words are disrespectful and angry on an almost constant basis. This is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) perspective for couples.

Sue Johnson’s “Hold Me Tight” - This book examines the reason we have enraged conversations, and why we ultimately withdraw from the ones we love most – our spouse / life partner.

John Gottman’s “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” – This is a wealth of information, taking from over 20 years of research in what makes marriages succeed or fail.

(Take a look at our full selection of books in the I Choose Change Bookstore.)

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Jennifer has skills:

  • Ph.D. Family Studies, Texas Woman’s University (in progress)
  • M.Ed. Education in Counseling, University of North Texas
  • B.S. Human Development and Family Studies,Texas Tech University
  • Mom of 3, all girls, including twins
  • Wife of 1. He’s the hardest of all of them.

 Please also check out the Supportive Change and  Change Retainer programs. And, see Video Counseling, Chat Sessions and Email Sessions if you’re considering online counseling.

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Contact our office manager directly at maggie@ichoosechange.com to schedule or click the button on your right.

I look forward to meeting you!