Comments on: Love For Sale: How an Unhappy Adult is Created http://www.ichoosechange.com/love-for-sale-how-an-unhappy-adult-is-created/ Love the Couch. Love Yourself. Tue, 15 May 2012 11:52:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Laurie http://www.ichoosechange.com/love-for-sale-how-an-unhappy-adult-is-created/comment-page-1/#comment-1103 Laurie Thu, 10 Sep 2009 16:04:08 +0000 http://www.ichoosechange.com/?p=484#comment-1103 Reading this post made me anxious. When you are supposed to be pretty darn near perfect, looking at a list like this and being able to check most of the boxes is unnerving. I remember when I was growing up, I promised myself that my future family would not have all of the dysfunctions that my family of origin had. What a joke. It all seemed to happen like the frog in hot water and I didn't know what to do about it all when I recognized it. The help I initially got wasn't the best. So how does this mom go to her teenage boys and repair the messages they may have received from her? I carry a lot of guilt and shame knowing that I have contributed to their struggles. How does one process that one and not end up in a rubber room? What does "visiting your inner child" look like? How will that affect the adult? With me, I have chronic anxiety and I don't know why. I am not aware of anything in particular I am anxious about but get so anious I struggle with breathing. I guess all this means I am not the perfect person I was supposed to be. hummm. Reading this post made me anxious. When you are supposed to be pretty darn near perfect, looking at a list like this and being able to check most of the boxes is unnerving.

I remember when I was growing up, I promised myself that my future family would not have all of the dysfunctions that my family of origin had. What a joke. It all seemed to happen like the frog in hot water and I didn’t know what to do about it all when I recognized it. The help I initially got wasn’t the best.

So how does this mom go to her teenage boys and repair the messages they may have received from her? I carry a lot of guilt and shame knowing that I have contributed to their struggles. How does one process that one and not end up in a rubber room?

What does “visiting your inner child” look like? How will that affect the adult? With me, I have chronic anxiety and I don’t know why. I am not aware of anything in particular I am anxious about but get so anious I struggle with breathing.

I guess all this means I am not the perfect person I was supposed to be. hummm.

]]> By: Positively Present http://www.ichoosechange.com/love-for-sale-how-an-unhappy-adult-is-created/comment-page-1/#comment-1102 Positively Present Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:20:06 +0000 http://www.ichoosechange.com/?p=484#comment-1102 This is a great post. I definitely need to do some work on my inner child. Thank god for therapy! :) This is a great post. I definitely need to do some work on my inner child. Thank god for therapy! :)

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