Jennifer Slingerland Ryan knows a thing or two about kids and families. First, she knows they are joyous, exhilarating, loving and so darn fun. Second, she knows they suck your life dry and make you weep like a baby.

By day she’s a psychotherapist; by night she’s a mom and wife. She claims to love therapizing couples, educating parents, reading dystopian fiction and sleeping in her free time (read: she never sleeps).

Jennifer has spent over 12 years in private practice working with individuals, couples, and parents who are faced with kid-drama, mamma-drama, and family-drama, and she claims that although some stories make a grown woman cry, she loves it.

We spend most of our time in relationships – with friends, children, life partners, and coworkers – and you may not realize it, but many issues arise out of those pesky, er, lovely people we call family. You have symptoms of depression, anxiety, ADD, anger and fear you say? Yep, those come from relationships, too. Jennifer will show you how.

Jennifer does this little thing called Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and she loves, loves Attachment Theory. (That may not make sense now, but it will when you schedule an appointment with her.)

Relationships create a blueprint for all other relationships throughout life, and our job is to change those people in our life…no wait that’s not right…our job is to change ourselves, early processing and belief systems that keep you feeling stuck.

What you’ll learn with Jennifer

  • How early family relationships create a subconscious pattern of behavior in our life and and in relationships of which we engage (intimate, friends, co-workers, etc.)
  • How thoughts, emotions, and actions are inter-connected, and how you can change the ones you don’t like
  • How early relationships create subconscious belief systems that drive everything we feel and do
  • The role personality, intuition, and mindfulness play in the change process
  • That homework and journal exercises between sessions make change happen more quickly
  • How meditation, self-talk, role-playing, role rehearsal affect the change process

Relationships (all of them!) are our most important asset. Our intimate partnership is one of our most important because this is where we’re the most vulnerable, and should feel the most connection and acceptance.

She is a Level 3 Gottman Counselor and Emotional Focused Therapist (EFT). She is also a Gottman 7 Principles Program Educator, which means she can train couples within groups to be more emotionally cohesive and better communicators (but you probably don’t need better communication in your marriage).  Books are listed below for more reference.

Learn More About EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy):

Jennifer Ryan is an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Therapist and is currently obtaining certification through intensive training. EFT based on attachment, which is the bonding we feel with another human being. It is experiential and focuses on people’s experience their relationship. How do they express their emotions? What is the dance couples perform with each other? What are their negative patterns?

EFT helps shift negative patterns of engagement and create a more secure emotional bond. Research shows that EFT produces a 70-75% recovery rate. No other couple’s therapy method has more extensive research than EFT; it has been researched over a span of 20 years.

For more information about EFT, click here.

Books to help you change

  • Robert Karen’s “Becoming Attached” – A great book about how we attach to parents as young babies and children, and what happens when we don’t. The childhood attachment process is essential in order to have a healthy adulthood.
  • David Burn’s “Feeling Good Together” – A great book for couples who are having a difficult time talking to one another because words are disrespectful and angry on an almost constant basis. This is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) perspective for couples.
  • Sue Johnson’s “Hold Me Tight” – This book examines the reason we have enraged conversations, and why we ultimately withdraw from the ones we love most – our spouse / life partner.
  • John Gottman’s “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” – This is a wealth of information, taking from over 20 years of research in what makes marriages succeed or fail.

Jennifer has skills

  • Ph.D. Family Studies, Texas Woman’s University (in progress)
  • M.Ed. Education in Counseling, University of North Texas
  • B.S. Human Development and Family Studies,Texas Tech University
  • Mom of 3, all girls, including twins
  • Wife of 1. He’s the hardest of all of them.
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