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Grief and Loss

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Grief and loss is incredibly painful. Loss of a loved one either from death of the ending of a relationship is like the loss of a limb. It’s part of life and something that everyone experiences at some point, but that doesn’t make matters easier when you’re in the middle of the depths of sadness. The first step toward healing is understanding what grief is and how it works.

The Five Stages of Grief

The standard stages of grief was a progression of emotions pioneered by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross of how the grieving process works. The Five Stages of Grief are as follows:

  1. Denial: Disbelief over the events that have caused loss. This may be anything from the death of a loved one to the loss of your home or something of extreme emotional importance. A feeling of pervasive numbness accompanies the first stage of grief.
  2. Anger: This is the pain after numbness wears off. Anger may be directed anyone or anything and needn’t make sense. Essentially, anger is the processing of pain that you weren’t able to register before. You may feel angry at the person you lost, your family and friends, even yourself.
  3. Bargaining: Attempts to escape the pain by coming up with fictional scenarios where you can exchange something to change the past. This stage is about the inability to come to terms with the current reality.
  4. Depression: This is the end result that tumultuous emotions bring and the stage when immense sadness will finally settle. It’s natural to be depressed after a traumatic loss, but this state can feel never-ending.
  5. Acceptance: The end result of the grieving process isn’t a magical cure where you bounce back to the person you were before, but about finally being able to exist in the new reality. Acceptance is not only about acknowledgment, but also about adjustment.

Who Deals with Grief?

The easy answer is that anyone who deals with loss will deal with grief. It’s part of the human condition, difficult though it may be. However, what does differ is how people of different ages and backgrounds will experience loss. Children, for example, will process grief in a much different way than adults.

How to Face Grief and Loss

Surviving grief and loss requires support. This can come from family and friends, support groups with people going through similar experiences and talk therapy. Ultimately, though, the most important support system for you is going to be yourself. This requires understanding the grieving process and being able to keep in touch with your emotions without shutting down. Talk therapy can help with the process of getting in touch with your own emotions. Call today for a free consultation with a certified counselor to explore how you can benefit from therapy.

About the Author:

Jennifer Slingerland Ryan knows a thing or two about kids and families. First, she knows they are joyous, exhilarating, loving and so darn fun. Second, she knows they suck your life dry and make you weep like a baby. By day she’s a psychotherapist; by night she’s a mom and wife. She claims to love therapizing couples, educating parents, reading dystopian fiction and sleeping in her free time (read: she never sleeps). Jennifer has spent over 12 years in private practice working with individuals, couples, and parents who are faced with kid-drama, mamma-drama, and family-drama, and she claims that although some stories make a grown woman cry, she loves it.
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