Being a Mom is tough work, we Moms know that. There are times we don't live up to the expectations we have for ourselves, and as a therapist, I find myself needing to let Moms know just how awesome they are. So, I put together a list of ways to know that you are an awesome mom! The most important thing about being an awesome mom is knowing who you are and what you are becoming. You are so much more than Just-a-Mom. Your life is way more than the identifying work, "Mom." You juggle so many things in your life, from being an Kid-Uber driver to rockin' it at the office. Pantsuit by day, messy bun by night, and what you have in between is
ADHD, often used interchangeably with ADD, is a neurobiological disorder of the brain characterized by inability to focus on tasks or follow through with tasks, or hyperactivity. It's important to distinguish life stressors which can cause these symptoms, to that which can be considered a true disorder. The DSM outlines specific criteria that patients exhibit who are clinically diagnosed with the disorder. ADHD can be treated with a multi-pronged approach, including pharmacological options and talk therapy, but the first step is to understand what it is and how it works. What ADHD Feels Like The DSM defines the following three symptoms as indicative of someone suffering from ADHD: Inattention: The inability to maintain focus on tasks, both during work and play, that results in lack of follow
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash The world can be a very scary place, and today’s non-stop news being transmitted in every medium imaginable, whether on social media or TV, it can be a challenge deciding how, or if, to let your child see it. As a parent, you need to be the filter through which information is delivered. This requires a solid approach of how to discuss upsetting real world events with your children while also providing reassurance. Finding Allen family counselors who specialize in children’s therapy such as the ones at I Choose Change can also be extremely helpful. Planning for Self Awareness By the time children hit 7 or 8 years old, Kids Health says that what they might see
Stubbornness is a common complaint from parents, especially those with children either in middle or high school. For these parents, it may seem like the defiance they face from their children is designed simply to push their buttons. This can lead to a shut-down in communication – which only worsens the issue. How can parents with stubborn children deal with their oppositional behavior? What are some ways to keep that opposition from becoming a problem in school? How does dealing with that youthful stubbornness affect their development as an adult? You might be able to get a few pointers from a classic short story by renowned author Dr. Seuss. The Story of The Zax The fictitious tale of “The Zax” focuses on two unrepentantly
For most families, the slide from summer to autumn is a time of excitement and perhaps a bit of sadness at the coming end of the carefree vacation days. For a growing number of children, though, the days leading up to school are racked with dread. Why such fear, when most of their peers are excitedly browsing backpacks and lunch boxes in the crowded stores? The simple answer is anxiety. Anxiety in Children Anxiety was once considered to be a purely adult affliction. What could possibly cause children to have anxiety? Today, the answer might surprise you. Some common fears children express about attending school include: Being the target of bullying or harsh judgement by peers Separation from their parents and/or families Separation from the
Bribes. That's the only thing I have to offer. Bribes. But not just any bribe, the right kind of bribe. So, here's what I can tell you. I can tell you that we as humans love rewards. We love feeling like we've done a good job at something, and we get those acts and words of affirmation in many forms. We all need it - adults and children alike - so it isn't surprising that bribes work. I can also tell you that the type of bribe is extremely important, so if you aren't tuned into what your kids love (or coworkers or others in your life), your words of affirmation will fall on deaf ears. As I told a client recently who felt like he
Each human being has an internal desire to obtain wellness. This is particularly true for children, who are developing a self-concept and communicating their state of well-being through their behaviors every day. When children "act out" behaviorally, their actions are often the catalyst that brings children and parents into my therapy office. It is important for me to help parents understand all behavior is purposeful. Therefore, even the behaviors we deem as inappropriate are an attempt by a child to fulfill an emotional or developmental need. Parents sometimes wonder why children do not ask for what they need directly. Like some adults, children frequently are not aware of what they need nor do they have the linguistic skills to articulate their thoughts, emotions, and desires.
Guest Blog by Jenny Wang, M.A., LPC It was the middle of a difficult freshman year of college, and I found myself waiting in my lawyer’s office for the deposition to begin. I had been dreading this for weeks, so I called my most trusted confidant to pass the time. Finally, I was called in to meet with the opposing party’s attorney and the questioning began. I’m sure there were many questions that were focused on the specific recollections regarding the collision I was a survivor of. However, the questions that still burn clearly in my mind more than twenty years later were the ones centered around my (then) current emotional state: Do you sleep significantly less or more than you did before the accident?