http://www.ichoosechange.com/blog/2009/04/cracker-jack-parenting-or-how-not-to-parent/ Building Stronger Families Mon, 08 Mar 2010 17:56:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://www.ichoosechange.com/blog/2009/04/cracker-jack-parenting-or-how-not-to-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-878 Colleen Sun, 19 Apr 2009 23:58:39 +0000 http://www.ichoosechange.com/blog/?p=277#comment-878 I take a little bit of issue with the TV "role models" of today. The Simpsons, Married with Children, and Malcolm in the Middle are parodies of family life and aren't meant to be taken seriously. I do agree with looking at your own parents and upbringing to see what type of parenting model was in place in your life and that of your spouse. THAT will speak volumes on the type of adults you become as well as any preconceived notions still lingering around after you choose to become a parent. I also agree with the post above-each child is different and if there is any age gap between the children (for me an almost 8 year gap came between my 1st and 2nd child) you will find your parenting is vastly different. The first time I would admit to being very permissive. With the second one I have been much more assertive, but still have my struggles each day. Parenting only gets more challenging as you go along, trust me. I take a little bit of issue with the TV “role models” of today. The Simpsons, Married with Children, and Malcolm in the Middle are parodies of family life and aren’t meant to be taken seriously. I do agree with looking at your own parents and upbringing to see what type of parenting model was in place in your life and that of your spouse. THAT will speak volumes on the type of adults you become as well as any preconceived notions still lingering around after you choose to become a parent. I also agree with the post above-each child is different and if there is any age gap between the children (for me an almost 8 year gap came between my 1st and 2nd child) you will find your parenting is vastly different. The first time I would admit to being very permissive. With the second one I have been much more assertive, but still have my struggles each day. Parenting only gets more challenging as you go along, trust me.

]]> http://www.ichoosechange.com/blog/2009/04/cracker-jack-parenting-or-how-not-to-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-876 Laurie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 23:27:25 +0000 http://www.ichoosechange.com/blog/?p=277#comment-876 I find I have been a different parent with my two kids. With the youngest one, now 16, I find I am more of the coach parent but also have times of a authoritative style as well as times of permissiveness. It seems to be going ok. With the first son, oh baby!, was that one hard to parent. I felt I was spending most of my time doing tough love and love and logic. He pushed every boundary and tried to manipulate every situation. He's on his own now doing good but wow, I didn't know how that one would turn out! I find I have been a different parent with my two kids. With the youngest one, now 16, I find I am more of the coach parent but also have times of a authoritative style as well as times of permissiveness. It seems to be going ok. With the first son, oh baby!, was that one hard to parent. I felt I was spending most of my time doing tough love and love and logic. He pushed every boundary and tried to manipulate every situation. He’s on his own now doing good but wow, I didn’t know how that one would turn out!

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